Silencing the inner critic voice

There is a conversation that's happens on the inside of you, which can either be a stepping stone or a stumbling block. You would agree with me that this voice could be negative or positive. The negative voice has acted as the stumbling block to many lives and destinies. 

There are two voices that speaks on the inside of you, one is the nurturing voice which lifts you and the other the critical voice which can pull you down. Each of this voice has their unique purpose and should be at a balanced state. The nurturing voice brings about self-compassion, self-motivation and self-encouragment while the critical voice is expected to make you realize the wrongs you do or get improved but.

But you would agree with me that in many, the critical voice has suppressed the nurturing voice making it ineffective. The inner critic voice feeds us with negative thought like you are going to embrass yourself in that presentation, which begins to affect your confidence, you don't know how to talk to large people, you can't just do it, you are not worth it, what makes you think you will succeed, then you begin to act in a way in relation to what the critic voice is saying.

All the inner critic voice do to you is overboarding, throwing dart after dart of scolding, shaming, nit-picking and faultfinding, wearing down your mood, self-worth and resilience. Shun the inner critic voice. To hell with it. It has kept you barned for so long. You get a new idea it shows up, you want to try new things, want to live a life of purpose it shows up. It is a destiny terminator, destiny stagnator, don't let that voice destroy your life. Instead of creating a wide and open space for embracing our lives, the inner critic prevents you by causing you to question your worth and collapse in on yourself.

The inner critic voice are formed due to lives experiences.It is a specific voice from the past— trauma, failure, the way you were treated as a child, constant looking down on by peers, people, the boss who fired you, insecurity and lots more. I have some friends who use to say to me; You can't dance, you can't do this, you can't do that, others are talking and you want to talk, this dampened my spirit, I just went with the notion that I can't do it, coupled with the trauma I had has a child, this went on to build a wrong perception about myself inside of me and made this inner critic voice prominent in my life and it surfaced in my actions, the way I do  things and saw thing.

In silencing the inner critic voice there are five steps I would point;

1. Root Awareness: You have to discover what the inner critic voice is saying. What is she telling you. Until you know the problem, the solution is far from you. What formed its saying, this can be achieved by identifying the area of your life where you are especially critical of yourself and then pay attention to what the criticisms are. Also discover where the voice is coming from, is it from past mistakes, experiences. The healing starts from the root which is what builds the inner critic voice and what's the voice is saying. 

2. Counteract: After discovering what the voice is saying, begin to counteract the voice, speak the opposite of what its saying. Whenever wrong thoughts about myself comes in, I speak the opposite of what the voice is saying. You must be ready to win this battle of the inner critic voice. This should be a Constant thing.

3. Discovery: Discover who you are. What are those gifts and talents in you. Don't kill yourself for areas not working and become hard on yourself. Focus on those area working let them build happiness in you. You must know that you are human and prone to mistakes. Your mistakes, experiences should not make you but let what God has said about you Make You. God has the blueprint for your life and he can help you out and make your life a better one.

4. Meditation: Don't sit on those negative thought. You are to guard your heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life, the way your life becomes patterned.  Once the inner critic voice begins to become louder, switch the nurturing voice and increase its volume. Meditate on the areas you are doing well. Think of how you can become better. Think of the lessons learnt from the mistakes. When  the inner critic voice pops up, tune on the nurturing voice to get solution to the problem the inner critic voice is saying. There should be a balance between the two.

5. Develop Yourself: You must constantly develop yourself to become a better version of your yesterday. Learn a skill, read new books, attend seminars but always make sure you are improving yourself. Discarding wrong knowledge and replacing them with the right one.

The inner critic voice would help you recognize areas where you need to improve and work on. However, Increasing the tune of the inner critic voice and reducing the tune of the nurturing voice would lead to overly harsh negative self-talk which will cause your performance to suffer and reduce the chances that you’ll reach your goals. Ypu must balance the two voices, silencing the negativity so you can coach yourself in a productive and helpful manner achieving lots of goal and living to fulfillment.